A few days ago, I was on the phone with a friend and he asked if I was "Talking to someone", I told him no and then wondered WTF that even meant. What is the point in this phrase and what does it consist of? Why is it so important to people?
Well, let's see. When I think of "talking" and how people use it, it seems as if it is a childish excuse for people to do everything that couples do without making an actual commitment to each other. These people may still be having sex with others and when the person they're talking to finds out, they get mad because it's technically not cheating. However; this means that some people are not really getting into relationships anymore. They're all just "talking" and pretending to be together. I don't see what the reason is. This is what I've seen growing up in NYC.
A lot of people don't want relationships anymore. They just want to hold on to people so that they will always be there when it is convenient for them. Keeping good people from actually meeting someone that with them. Instead of them being with a Juvenile who needs to put a label on something just to keep the other content enough to be stuck on them.
Then you have the people who say that talking means that two people are interested in each other and are getting to know each other to see if they want to be together or not. I'm pretty sure it doesn't take one or even two years to figure out whether you want to be in a relationship with someone, or not. And if it does, why not just stick to saying you're friends so that you're not placing a bookmark on someone you expect to wait around for you to mature and finally begin dating.
I'm sorry but I do not understand the point. Why am I going around telling people that I'm "talking to someone"? If someone told me that I would ask them if they wanted a cookie. To me, either you're single or you're not. You are friends with the person or you are in a relationship with the person. Just say that you and I are just good friends or something. It's not like it's a lie. When we become bf/gf then we will say that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. It's as simple as that. There is no in between. I will not be telling people that I'm talking to someone. I graduated from HS, how many years ago? Even when I wasn't there, I was not saying that I was "talking to someone". I was either single or in a relationship. And those are the exact terms that I used. No matter how serious it is getting with someone, either you are together or you are not. Until you two take that step and commit to each other, there is not you two. It's as simple as that.
Why not just say that you are dating? Never mind, going on dates is so old fashioned for most people. Some men don't want to take a girl out and get to know her. They want to "Chill" in the house, watching Netflix and have sex. And they wonder why they can't get a girl. Maybe if people started making the effort to actually get to know each other before jumping in the bed together, they would be able to find someone that is worth being with. And I know certain people think that you are with someone just because you're sleeping with them. News flash, sex is not something that will bind your commitment to someone. People casually have sex all of the time and it is just that. Sex, don't make it more than it is or you will get hurt. It sucks but it is the reality of things.
This may be all over the place but I could care less. I feel a lot better lol. If this annoyed you, good for you, take a cookie on your way out to I don't give two fucks land. If you agreed, I know that I'm not alone.
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